One Simple Word That Will Change Your Life

The Power of NoOne Simple Word That Will Change Your Life

Do you ever feel like there’s just way too much to do and too little time? Sure you do, you’re an entrepreneur!

But it’s not necessarily true. Perhaps you’re just spreading yourself too thin – and that can change.

There are many helpful productivity and time-management tips, but I believe the most powerful one is the art of saying NO – that’s “no” to yourself, “no” to employees, “no” to friends, and, yes, even “no” (sometimes) to clients.

Reflect upon the times that you have regretted saying “yes” to something that took you away from your primary focus. How much time and stress would it have saved you if you had uttered one little word?

But how do you say “no” to your own mother when she calls to chat in the middle of the day? Or to the client who expects you to go beyond the scope of a project without their paying for the extra work? What about all of those cool ideas that enter your mind; how do you say “no” to yourself and remain focused on what’s most important?

Here are three simple guidelines that might just make your life easier:

1. Don’t respond immediately.

When you are asked to do something that isn’t a part of your primary focus, simply tell the person that you will get back to them. Take a little time to assess the pros and cons of saying “yes.” Reflect upon your goals and review how saying “yes” will affect them.

Even if it’s a simple request, it may put you behind schedule. Is it worth it? You have a right to say “no,” and once you begin to see the results, this little word will roll off your tongue with greater ease.

2. Consider creative solutions.

Sometimes we say “yes” because we just want to be nice. Saying “no” does not mean that you aren’t a nice person; it simply means that you have priorities and boundaries. When someone comes to you with a request that you would like to fulfill but it would put a crimp in your schedule, think about giving them a partial yes – or offer another solution.

A few weeks ago, I was asked to speak to a group on very short notice. I really wanted to do it to help them out, but I knew what it would cost me in time. Following my own advice, I offered to get back to the meeting planner by the end of the day. I decided that I simply couldn’t take the time out of my schedule right now, so I called a peer and asked her permission to pass her name along as a potential speaker. Then I called the meeting planner with this wonderful solution and a commitment to speak to her group in January instead.

No” doesn’t necessarily mean “never.”

3. Keep it simple: Never over-explain or apologize profusely.

You do not have to apologize for doing what’s right for you and your business. If you are kind in your response and offer a few very simple words of explanation, most people will respect you for it. Take a moment to put yourself in the other person’s position and choose the words that seem most appropriate for their personality type. If they are direct, be brief and direct; if they are emotional, use a more compassionate tone.

Remember that long explanations and apologies may backfire, causing the other party to push harder and you to question your decision. Don’t complicate the situation; just kindly say “no” with a brief (one sentence) explanation or creative solution attached.

Just for fun, keep a list of your progress. If you say “no” to picking up the phone when your friend (or even your mother) calls during your workday, jot down how much time you saved, and call them back during a time when you can both enjoy the conversation.

Resist the hasty “yes,” and keep track of your time savings for a week or two. Soon you will be delivering a powerful “no” with ease!

Marla Tabaka is an Expert for Showcasing Women. She is a business coach and Inc. Magazine author. Marla also hosts two online radio shows where she discusses business and mindset strategies with guests the likes of Jack Canfield, Randy Gage and Brendon Burchard. Marla’s work has been featured in noteworthy publications such as American Express Open, TIME Business, NAWBO SmartBrief, The Huffington Post, Social Media Mag, and The Business Intelligence Report. She is also a success coach for the nationally known organization, Count-Me-In for Women’s Economic Development. MarlaTabaka.com

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